This is a photo of my Beth. She's such a "typical" first-born. She's a take-charge kinda' girl who has a lot of power struggles with the mama. She's awesome and brilliant but we have to work really hard at having a relationship.
I'm reading this book called "Redirecting Children's Behavior" and it's been a great tool, it causes me to look at my parenting from a new angle and gives lots of examples. Today I was reading about power-struggles and how to re-direct a child's desire for control by giving them the opportunity to make choices.
So I had this idea - I'll take Beth with me to the grocery store and I'll let her make all of those little choices I hate to make - sometimes I think that the spaghetti sauce manufacturers have it in for people like me, I mean come on! Do we really need ten different flavors of spaghetti sauce?
It was awesome Beth enjoyed her time with me a LOT. I bought her some chapstick and a .33 package of Funions and she was just the happiest little kid in the world! She made a lot of really great choices. I directed her towards the brand I wanted to buy and she usually chose stuff that she's seen in the house before so there was zero fighting. I think I got through my shopping faster too cause she was there to help!
So I thought I'd share this little nugget of wisdom, since it worked for us.
BTW: Emma (daughter #2) has more need for attention so I'll be taking her next week so we can have one on one time.